How do I say my greetings?😃 It’s been ages. Life has been busy lately and oh my! It took this beautiful union to bring me back on my blog. Can you imagine that? 😂
Whew! I am excited about this and I have this beautiful privilege to share the divinely engineered love story of SDUnion with y’all. Come ride with me as I give you the gist from the bride.😄
Shall we?
Can we meet you?
Dami: Smiles. I am Damilola Bello. I work in a fintech company and I also run a fashion brand-Orleeclothings where we create, style and design unique clothings.
Wow! That’s impressive. Something tells me you are a strong woman. Fintech and Fashion, what a wonderful combination!😉
Dami: Thank you.😁
You are very welcome. Congratulations, Damilola. We are excited about your upcoming wedding (speaking for myself and many others.😂) We know you are more than excited. In fact, as I speak, I can see the excitement written all over you.😁 So please, tell us, how you feel about your upcoming wedding?
Dami: Well, it’s a mixture of many feelings. I’m beyond excited and nervous, too. 😂
Aww. That’s so sweet. So, we want to know, how did you meet your fiance? On the road, in the car….How? Gist us, abeg.😁
Dami: The first time I met him, it was at a friend’s place and we didn’t talk because he was always indoors. The few times we talked, it was just hi hi and funnily enough, I didn’t know it was him at that time.
Wow, so he was near and you didn’t know.
Dami: Yep😄. I had the knowing after some years. Not that first time. You know, there was a time I ended a relationship and I went back to God to be sure. That time, the Holy Spirit told me I would know when the person comes. Even when different suitors were coming, people I liked. I just knew they weren’t the one. I got tired at some point, I was like God, when exactly is that person coming? I even went back to pray to be sure it wasn’t just my emotions but even before he made his intention know, I just knew it. We weren’t close, but I knew, even though some factors were making ‘struggle’ me with accepting.
I love your sincerity and the fact that you knew and you were so sure, so tell us…
What was it like waiting to be engaged?
Waiting to be engaged was a rollercoaster for me. As the only child of my parents, I felt a lot of pressure. At times, it felt like I was waiting without a clear purpose. It wasn’t an easy journey, but everything changed when I sincerely asked God for guidance. I told Him that no matter how long it took, I needed His word. This brought me comfort and clarity, as everything He revealed to me during that time unfolded exactly as He said.
Going back to God is very crucial. Thank you for reminding us.😃
Our society is a blessed one, you must have gotten the “when are you getting married?” question so many times. What was your reply each time?
Dami: If pressure had a name, it would have been me. 😂 I heard that question countless times, along with even more annoying and embarrassing ones from family and friends. Some even said my parents were caging me because I’m an only child.
It was a question I always heard at family functions; they would constantly ring it in my head. My usual reply was, “God will do it” or “Very soon!”
While I used to feel bad about the way some people spoke, I didn’t let it get to me.
I love the fact that you didn’t let it get to you. That’s commendable.
So was there any time you had to deal with a misunderstanding in your relationship?
Dami: Yes, there have been times when we faced misunderstandings in our relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs. But we always strive to communicate openly and honestly, and we make an effort to understand each other’s perspectives. Through these challenges, we’ve grown stronger and more connected.
That’s great. Communication is key!
In the world today, chastity is almost becoming a thing of the past, do you believe engaged people can maintain sexual purity?
Dami: Yes, I believe in Sexual purity and I believe it is possible. It is God’s will and that is why it is called Holy matrimony.
Wow! Can you tell us one thing that helped you maintain sexual purity during your courtship?
Dami: We made up our minds not to dwell on our emotions. We spent time outdoors. We had it at the corner of our minds that we would maintain sexual purity. Also, my fiance always said it, several times, that my body is God’s temple, and it is to be honoured and he did just that.
That’s great. He was such an intentional man.😀 While maintaining sexual purity, I believe you had some unforgettable moments during your courtship? Kindly share with us.
Dami: Every moment we spent together was unforgettable. Since we had a long-distance relationship, every visit was incredibly special.
Awww…
Dami: Yep. (Smiles) Though there was a particularly challenging time when we almost ended the relationship, but thankfully, we came out victorious.
Glory to God, we are celebrating the victory now. Let me dance for some minutes.💃💃💃
Dami: (Smiles)
You recently celebrated your 30th birthday, were you at anytime scared that you didn’t get married before 30? And what would you say to ladies who are scared of hitting 30 before getting married?
Dami: There is no need to be scared if you are clocking 30 and you are not yet married. God is a faithful God and He will always come through at His time.
No rush! Don’t give room for pressure! And trust God.
That’s great. Thank you, Damilola. I know that will be helpful.
Your fiance is a very good writer. He wrote you some letters before you came into his life-(Dear Future Wife series). I believe you read those letters, too. How did you feel when you did?
Dami: (Smiles) Back then, I wasn’t really reading the series. It was later that I started reading his letters and I was like, these brothers sha. I was his friend on Facebook but I wasn’t really following. When we starting courting, I now went back to read them, one after the other. Trust me, I was blushing. I enjoyed reading those letters. And I can say most of the things he wrote really described me and I feel so happy that i have a very creative fiance. (Laughs again.😂😂😂😂)
That’s so sweet.
When you got to know you were the one he was writing to, how did you feel?
Dami: I felt so special. I felt like a queen. My fiance had many fans reading his letters. It was fun. The first time one of my pastors saw me, after he got to know I was the recipient of the letters, he said, so you are the future wife we have been waiting for. And a lot of people also said the samething. Gosh! I felt special every single time I heard that. So much have been written about me. It’s beautiful. (Smiles)
I agree with you. That must have been quite an experience. I love love. I hope to marry a writer too.😂😂✍️
I have been told that planning a wedding could be stressful, how has it been for you?
Dami: Oh yeah! (Smiles) With the help of God, family, and friends, we are making progress.
There were times I wish everything would just come and go, and there were times when I missed the simplicity of being single and not planning. 😂
But overall, I enjoyed the process and, of course, I documented every moment.
Aww😀🤭
From experience, what is the very first thing you think engaged people should do once they fix a date for their marriage?
Dami: What I think to-be couples should do first, if they can afford it, is to get an event planner and if you can’t afford it, get people to delegate roles to and let it be supervised to ensure everything goes well.
That’s wisdom, I must say. So, what do you think was of a major help to you when you were planning your wedding?
Dami: God has been faithful. I have enjoyed the Gift of men. I appreciate that. I didn’t even feel like an only child. I feel loved and supported.
That’s beautiful. We all need people in our lives. God bless everyone that has been helpful.😁
What would be your advice to brides to be planning their weddings now?
Dami: They should rest. I know you are trying as much as possible to please your guests and you are worried about the planning, you want everything to go well, but please, rest. While I was planning my wedding, I fell ill at some point because of the stress, so I would advice intending brides to take it easy on themselves. Everything will be fine.
‘Everything will be fine.’ I love that.
We know the prices of things have skyrocketed over time. Were you ever scared or anxious at some point while planning, because of the prices of things…
Dami: I was so scared. It was mixed feelings. Sometimes, I say God, we still have somethings to do. I was anxious but I kept holding onto God’s word. With God’s help, we were able to scale through.
That’s fantastic. God’s word works.
Dami: It works. (Smiles) Each time, I was scared. I I went back to my drawing board, trusting God, confessing His word and trusting Him.
That’s great. We keep confessing God’s word until we see results…
Do you still believe in God choosing for His own? Can you tell us more about this based on your own experience?
Dami: Yes, absolutely! God is so intentional about His children and He is deeply interested in every aspect of our lives. We just need to cooperate with Him.
For me, the pressure was unbearable at times. As an only child, I faced significant pressure from my family regarding marriage. It wasn’t an easy period for me. At some point, I felt tempted to settle for any man who came along just to alleviate the pressure.
However, I decided to sincerely seek God’s guidance regarding my marital choice. I was honest in my prayers, telling God that I didn’t know how much longer I could wait but that I needed a word from Him to sustain me through the pressure. The Holy Spirit then reassured me that it would be a knowing—that when the right person comes, I would know.
To cut the story short, everything the Holy Spirit told me came to pass. God is indeed intentional about us, and He is still in the business of choosing for His own. All He needs is our cooperation.
Do you have any advice to singles?
When it comes to choosing a marital partner, it’s essential to put God first. As my Father in the Lord, Rev. Olusola Areogun, often says, “Get it right and get better at it.” The only way to truly get it right is by seeking God’s guidance. With God at the center of your decisions, everything else will fall in place. So, my advice is to always prioritize God in your marital choices.
Wow! Thanks so much, Dami. It’s been a beautiful session with you. We love your story and we are happy to share in your joy. Congratulations and thank you once again.
Dami: The pleasure is mine.❤️
Dear readers, thank you for coming with me on this journey. I am sure you enjoyed the gist as I also did. Thank you for reading. May we keep having reasons to celebrate. I am your host, Bolanle Temidayo Ogunleye. Till next time, keep enjoying God.❤️❤️❤️
